Step 5 of AA: Be honest about your mistakes

Edmund Murphy
Dr. Kimberly Langdon
Written by Edmund Murphy on 08 February 2022
Medically reviewed by Dr. Kimberly Langdon on 14 November 2024

Step 5 of Alcoholics Anonymous involves openly admitting to others the full extent of one's wrongs and mistakes.

Step 5 of Alcoholics Anonymous
"Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs."

This step builds upon the self-examination of Steps 1 to 4, transitioning from personal reflection to external accountability. It also prepares individuals for making amends in subsequent steps, emphasizing the importance of openness and integrity in achieving lasting sobriety.

Key takeaways:
  • Step 5 builds on the spiritual principles of the 12 Step program, solidifying core elements such as courage, surrender, honesty, and trust as well as the commitment needed for recovery.
  • Admitting your wrongs to this power, through prayer, meditation, or simply saying them out loud, builds the bond you have with it and strengthens your resolve in it for subsequent steps.

What is the 5th Step of AA prayer?

Alcoholic Anonymous step five reads as follows “admit to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrong.” This step is often referred to as the “confession” step as it requires admittance of the wrongs caused by a person's alcohol abuse, both to themselves and to others.

Step 5 builds on the spiritual principles of the 12 Step program, solidifying core elements such as courage, surrender, honesty, and trust as well as the commitment needed for recovery.

Admitting wrongs: Sharing the results of the personal inventory with a trusted person or higher power, acknowledging the nature of one's wrongdoings and seeking accountability. By sharing this truth with another and placing it out in the world, it becomes more tangible. Now, others are aware of this truth, and there is no turning back. Beyond oneself, those who receive this information may help with accountability. A major symptoms of addiction is denial and/or hiding other symptoms and warning signs from others. At the very least, one is no longer alone now. [2]

Dr. Matt Glowiak

Medical advisor

Confession to God

In Steps 2 & 3 of AA, the participant is asked to accept that there is a higher power to whom they release the control of their addiction. For some, this may be their interpretation of God or another religious diety, for others, it will be a representation of a person or thing they see as having spiritual power.

Admitting your wrongs to this power, through prayer, meditation, or simply saying them out loud, builds the bond you have with it and strengthens your resolve in it for subsequent steps.

Confession to the self

Confession to the self is a direct continuation of the moral inventory built in Step 4. By accepting our wrongs we can release the egotism and fear that surrounds our addiction, helping us to become more honest and open about our misdoings to our higher power and other people.

Confession to another person

Breaking the cycle of alcohol addiction is a challenge that is rarely achieved without help. As step 5 is about building self-esteem and realization through admitting what wrongs you have committed through alcohol abuse, many find it hard to choose a person to confess their wrongs to.

This is why many people use a sponsor for step 5, someone who is either in the program or is a recovering alcoholic, as they are the ones who can truly appreciate another addict's journey without judgment or preconceived notions. They can also help maintain perspective on the nature of the wrongs being confessed as well as keeping blame away from others.

Fear of confession

Admitting wrongs and confronting how alcohol addiction has affected your life is often very difficult for people facing the 5th step of AA. People struggling with alcohol abuse tend to keep their addiction to themselves and will often make excuses for it and how it makes them behave. Confronting these excuses and admitting that they are false to other people can feel intimidating.

This is why step 4 has you construct a moral inventory so that you will have already confronted yourself and will have the courage to face shame and rejection by admitting your wrongs. You will also be able to break the pattern of denial and be more willing and prepared to face the subsequent steps.

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Resources:

  1. Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. (1981). New York: Alcoholics Anonymous World Services. Retrieved on Feb 07, 2022, from:
  2. Matt Glowiak, PhD, LCP. (n.d.). Choosing Therapy.

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Reviewer

Kimberly Langdon M.D. has been contributing to medical fields including mental health and addiction since she retired from medicine; with over 19 years of practicing clinical experience.

Activity History - Medically Reviewed on 28 January 2022 and last checked on 14 November 2024

Medically reviewed by
Dr. Kimberly Langdon

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Dr. Kimberly Langdon

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