How to Quit Porn For Good

Naomi Carr
Dr. David Miles
Written by Naomi Carr on 09 September 2024
Medically reviewed by Dr. David Miles on 02 October 2024

When porn use becomes excessive or causes negative effects on your life, such as impacting your relationships or professional functioning, it might indicate that you have developed a porn addiction. Overcoming this addiction can be difficult and it may cause feelings of shame. Implementing strategies such as managing triggers, monitoring porn use, using distractions and implementing healthy habits, speaking to others, and seeking treatment can help you manage your addiction and prevent further harm.

Key takeaways:
  • You can utilize many strategies to help you quit porn and overcome your addiction, such as managing triggers, using distractions, and speaking to others.
  • Signs of harmful or addictive porn use might include spending long periods watching porn, lying to others about your porn use, and financial or professional issues.
  • Many professional treatments are available to help you overcome your addiction, including therapy and support groups.
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How to overcome porn addiction

Overcoming a porn addiction can be challenging and may require professional intervention. As with any addiction, quitting porn after an addiction has developed can lead to withdrawal symptoms, including physical and emotional changes. This can be due to neurological changes and the development of habitual behaviors and thought patterns.

You may have noticed that your porn use is having a detrimental impact on several aspects of your life. Recognizing that you are engaging in problematic porn use is the first stage to overcoming this addiction.

During porn addiction recovery, you might experience many triggers and cravings and could relapse before overcoming your addiction. This article explores strategies that can help you through this process, including self-care techniques and professional treatments.

How do I know if I need to stop watching porn?

While many people engage with pornography, excessive and prolonged use can lead to addiction for others.

Signs that you may be developing a porn addiction can include:

  • Decline in sexual activity with or attraction to romantic partners
  • Sexual dysfunction
  • Inability to feel pleasure from previously enjoyable activities and hobbies
  • Thinking obsessively about using porn
  • Hiding or lying about porn use
  • Feeling guilty or ashamed about porn use
  • Professional, social, or personal functioning becomes increasingly impaired due to porn use
  • Withdrawal symptoms when not using porn, such as extreme mood changes and irritability

8 Strategies for quitting porn

The following list can be used to help you quit porn and recover from your addiction.

1. Write your goals and motivations

The first step to overcoming addiction is to recognize the harmful impact it is having and your reasons for wanting to quit. Write a list of your motivations for quitting porn use and any goals you have that relate to overcoming this addiction.

This can serve as a reminder throughout your recovery process, particularly when you experience challenges. You can also refer to this if you experience a relapse, as this can help you return to your recovery and learn from your setbacks rather than seeing them as a failure.

2. Monitor porn use

Before taking the first steps toward abstinence, it can be helpful to monitor and track your porn usage. This can include keeping a journal or record of how long you spend each day using porn, any specific times of the day that you are more likely to use porn, and if certain emotions or situations are regularly preceding porn use.

This can give you a baseline to work from as you start quitting or gradually reducing porn use. It can also help you notice your triggers and work toward managing these situations.

3. Delete, remove, or block porn

Remove any temptations and access to porn, whether this is on a computer or device or physical material such as magazines. It can also be helpful to place blockers on your devices which can help prevent you from accessing porn easily and force you to consider your actions before attempting to use porn.

4. Recognize and manage triggers

Understanding your triggers can be a crucial part of overcoming addiction. Often, these are linked to a range of emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. Consider the circumstances that preceded your past porn use and if there are any patterns associated with these cravings and behaviors. You might find it helpful to keep a record of this.

As you learn more about your specific triggers, you can implement coping strategies to manage or avoid them. This might form part of a relapse prevention plan, which can include a list of helpful techniques and skills you utilized to avoid acting on cravings.

5. Talk to others

It might feel scary to talk to friends and family about your porn addiction but having a support network can have a significantly positive impact on addiction recovery. Loved ones can help you manage distressing emotions, overcome cravings and triggers, and provide ongoing support throughout your process.

Alternatively, you could talk to people through support groups, where you have a safe space to discuss your experiences and receive support and advice from others in a similar situation.

6. Use distractions and healthy habits

Try to implement healthy habits into your daily routine and engage in these activities whenever you feel an urge to use porn. This could include reading, exercising, meditating, socializing, or breathing exercises. These activities can help distract you from your cravings and prevent you from focusing on your thoughts of using porn.

Additionally, these activities can have many benefits for physical and mental well-being, which can, in turn, contribute to positive effects in overcoming your addiction.

7. Practice mindfulness

Mindfulness involves focusing on the present and can include a range of techniques, such as meditation, breathing exercises, and yoga. These exercises can help you feel calmer, bring awareness to mental and physical sensations, and improve resilience. As such, mindfulness can help prevent or reduce cravings and withdrawal symptoms and improve your recovery process.

8. Seek treatment

When trying to quit porn use, it can be helpful to seek and utilize professional help, as it can be difficult to overcome these thoughts and behaviors alone, particularly for those who experience certain predispositions to addictive behaviors such as excessive porn use.

Treating porn addiction can involve various approaches. Some of the available treatment options for porn addiction include:

  • Therapy: Different types of therapy may be beneficial in treating porn addiction, such as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) or mindfulness-based therapies. This can help individuals recognize and alter harmful thought and behavior patterns and learn positive coping strategies.
  • Support groups: Support groups can help reduce feelings of shame, allowing individuals to share and discuss symptoms and experiences and provide one another with support and advice.
  • Holistic approaches: Interventions such as mindfulness, breathing, physical exercise, and creative therapies can help reduce addictive behaviors.
  • Medications: There are no approved medications to treat porn addiction. However, medications can be used to help reduce associated symptoms and conditions, such as depression and anxiety.

Helping others to get over porn addiction

If you know someone that appears to be showing signs of developing porn addiction, you may want to support them in managing and overcoming their addiction. The following can be helpful tips to support someone with a porn addiction:

  • Be their accountability buddy: By offering to hold your loved one accountable, they can rely on you to help them spot warning signs of porn use relapse and implement early prevention strategies. You can also remind them of their goals and motivations in recovery and encourage their progress.
  • Be non-judgmental and compassionate: Porn addiction is often associated with feelings of shame and guilt. It is important for individuals to acknowledge these emotions without becoming overwhelmed or significantly impacted by them. Offering support without judgment can help reduce the impact of these emotions and help move past them to return to recovery.
  • Listen: Let your loved one reach out to you for conversations about their experiences, cravings, triggers, and concerns.
  • Be available: Spending time with your loved one can help distract them from their urges and provide positive experiences that can improve their mental well-being.
  • Offer to attend appointments: If appropriate, offer to attend treatment appointments with your loved one if they feel worried about attending alone.
  • Help make a plan: They might find it helpful for you to be involved in forming a plan for their detox, abstinence, and relapse prevention. You can help them think of possible distractions and coping strategies and when it might be necessary for them to seek help, such as when they notice warning signs.
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Activity History - Medically Reviewed on 06 September 2024 and last checked on 02 October 2024

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